Self Pleasure Is A Turn On

Just read Cosmo at the hair dresser-and saw a study about what men like. A majority (over 35%) like to watch women self pleasure. The percentage actually goes up as they age. In the world of Cosmo-aging is past 30.

Anyway-Goddesses -We now have proof! Our enjoyment is a turn on!

Sex-Priestess

I just noticed that I am listed under WP search on blogs about sex priestesses. This is so wonderful but reminds me how far away from that I’ve gotten. I’ve possible gone so far underground that I disspeared! I want to say that I believe that being a sex priestess, or a sex goddess is something that ALL women are capable of. It took me a lot of work to get here. Not saying I have no where else to go-but in that area-things are amazing. I’ve just gotten a bit shy about being too explicit online. Even under my pseodonym, “GoddessLady”.

It’s a shame that in this modern world women still have to be ashamed, or hide their sexuality. Or else, if they have issues with it-there is little support for them. As far as I’m concerned every women should be having sacred and amazing and orgasmic sex regularly-with herself and with her partner. This is how we were made!

So many marriages and relationships lose this component and the overall voice that we hear is that, “that’s normal”. But it’s not. Just ask any animal that is overwhelmed with the urge to mate. We are animals. We need to be mating to be fully human. Goddess gave us the sacred ability to enjoy our sexuality even when a partner is not present. This divine gift is one that is part of our animal/human nature and one that we “should” be taking advantage of regularly.

Unless there is a short term medical or emotional issue-every woman should be experiencing orgasms on a regular basis. I’m talking daily or several times a week. MINIMUM! I say should here not to make anyone wrong but to bring home the point that just as if you were limping for years-you would say, huh-I wonder why I limp all the time? If you are not orgasmic alone and/or with partner-you can say, huh, I wonder why?

The cure? Is different for all women but usually involved reawakening their love of themselves, healing their past sexual trauma, claimin their sexuality as their own and some sort of regular rituals that contribute to well being and joy. Some examples are dancing, self pleasure, buying pretty things, therapy, personal growth, spirtual education. It is usually a mix of the intellectual, the physical and the spiritual.

We are blessed animals-let us nurture our areas of sexual shame and disability and heal. How wonderful would the world be if every woman, everywhere in the world was empowered sexually and spiritually? Men would be happier, children would be happier.

So – when you take time  for joy, pleasure and self-you are making the world a better place.

-Goddess blessings.

Goddess And Sprit Bring Blessed Changes

Lately I have been so amazed by the relationship hubby and I had-it’s like a new honeymoon for us. The thing that amazes me the most is that we did not “do” anything to make it happen. It’s really been unfolding ever since that first seance that I went to In November. He has actually used the words to me, “You are my goddess” and “I love worshiping you.” I never thought I would see the day!

A small note about the seances-they tend to be more spirit guidance from ascended masters than catching up with dead relatives and loved ones. That does happen too-it’s just not really the focus. Just an FYI-for more info see Ms. Tulip And Me.

Anyway-I have worked at continuing this connection, at being loving in my requests and less bitchy. Now-I’m still a woman so the bitch is never going away completely but it is growing slowly.

Also-I am feeling very grateful and connected to spirit more and more. Having a direct experience-speaking with angels, goddesses, spirit guides has, for me, made this a reality that is undeniable.

This Goddess journey takes me in so many wonderful directions-I am finding the balance between creating my reality and letting the wonderful reality that Goddess has in store for me unfold to be awesome.

Blessings to all!

Difference Between A Food Lover And A Food Addict

I recently bought a saxaphone-it is my new hobby. I am still looking for a teacher. I named her Ella (the sax not the teacher). Anyway, I was talking to the petite sales girl about why I decided to start playing. I was thinking about some activities that I could do to replace the actual vibrational sensation and pleasure that I get from eating-now that I’m not doing much of that anymore and playing a wind instrument came to mind. With my love of jazz-the sax seemed the logical choice.

She said that she also loved food and although you couldn’t tell by looking at her she loved so many different things about food. It really got me thinking. What is the difference between a food lover or foodie and a food addict?

Well-I think that a foodie really loves the food itself while a food addict loves the way that the food makes her feel. When I think about most of the foods that I crave-it is the feeling that goes with eating the food that I think most about. Not that I dont’ like the taste but the taste is only valued as it pairs with the feeling. Thus I am an addict and she a foodie. Seemed like a big revelation to me.

Goddess Message For Me-I am responsible for my wrongdoings-not teaching others of theirs.

I had a terrible migraine headache for the last two days. While lying in bed yesterday, I prayed and prayed-”Kuan Yin, Angels, Goddess, please help me – I surrender”.

My in-laws and I had a bad falling out a few years ago. Without going into excessive detail-I wrote some stuff online that was rude to them and some other stuff that was too explicit for them. I never meant for them to read it but they found it. I didn’t do the best job of covering my tracks-I’m much better at that now.

Anyway-I’ve apologized but on the condition that they acknowledge some responsibility in the matter. Things were not exactly peachy keen between us before this all happened. Years of ill will, hurt feeling and un-met expectations went into the “final showdown”. I haven’t spoken with them directly-have left phone messages and written but no direct convos. Let’s just say that everyone in my life (except hubby who has been very torn) has thought of me as right and them as wrong.

In bed-in pain yesterday-I prayed and finally felt clear enough to be willing to apologize in person for all wrongdoing and trust that I will be safe. It is not my job to make them responsible for their wrongdoings-only to be responsible for mine. So I will go humbly to them and apologize. From a spiritual place of taking responsibility for me and how I occur in their world. I will not let them harm me in the future but will let them have their own journey and lessons when they are ready for them. It’s not up to me when they “learn” only them. I will let go so that I can move on and my husband is at peace with them-his mommy and daddy.

The words of many a self help program echo in my head, “You can be right or you can be _______.” Fill in the blank with successful, related, happy. Being right is not joyful-being at peace with oneself is. This is the first time when I’ve felt clear enough to be at peace with my apology and not resentful. I will continue to pray to Goddess that this will be the case going forward.

Blessed Be!

Gay Rights-Civil Rights-Human Rights

You’ve probably all read about how you can cook a frog. If you put it in a pot of boiling water-it will jump out but if you put it in a pot of cold water and gradually turn the heat up-it will stay in there until it’s dead.

I just read about Wandy Sykes coming out and really love what she said.

“You know, I don’t really talk about my sexual orientation. I didn’t feel like I had to. I was just living my life, not necessarily in the closet, but I was living my life,” said Sykes, 44, while speaking at a Las Vegas rally for gay marriage.

“I got pissed off,” she continued. “They pissed me off. I said, ‘You know what? Now I gotta get in your face’ and that’s what we all have to do now. They pissed off the wrong group of people. They have galvanized a community…Instead of having gay marriage in California, we’re going to get it across the country.”

I hope that we as a human race will get together and make gay marriage legal everwhere in the country-no more slowly turning up the heat-they just got dropped in boiling water. If two people want to enter into a binding legal/spiritual agreement about their life and share all the same protections and rights as straight people-let them! Like civil rights, which is not just a “black” issue but a human issue, so are gay rights. When any of our rights are compromised-all of us suffer. As a jew, woman and someone with an alternative religious practice-I say that we should all stand-not just the affronted community-whatever it is.

Goddess come in all shapes, sizes, races and sexual orientations. So do a**holes. Lets be Goddesses and work towards love not away from it!

Sperm Wars-Empowering Women!

I just ordered the book, Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict, and Other Bedroom Battles, on Amazon. It was a ground breaking book written by a scientist. He (Robin Baker) learned that women are designed to have multiple partners biologically. While I’m not interested in cheating on hubby I still find the concept very empowering. We are the ones who ultimately choose who is best fit to carry on the human race-not men.

Anyway-I haven’t read it-looking forward to learning more…

Let’s All Have Cake!

I feel like my Goddess identity has been a bit squashed. She does not know how to communicate her message to the world. She wants to tell women that the process of learning to love themselves is a sexual one first. Then it’s about trust. Then it’s about respect. Then it’s about boundaries (with the self first) and finally it is one of spreading the word.

As annoying as those Jehovah’s Witnesses are-they are willing to spread the word of their faith in a world where many do not want to hear. As a goddess lover I feel the need to hide. I will come out of hiding.

Do you masturbate? Do you enjoy sex with a partner? Start there. Those who believe that it is wrong or not necessary are denying a gift that Goddess gave us. Would you say no to a calorie free and healthy cake at a party? If it was the best cake in the universe and would only help you or at least leave you no worse off than you already are? No. Well orgasms are like that. Free-no calories-they do not hurt anyone. This gift was given to us to help us cope with the rest of reality! Use it!!!

More important than exercising three times a week

Feeling down?  Want to lose weight? Want to improve your self esteem? We can all feel better, more goddess like without losing a pound! Read on…

All women should “self pleasure” at least three times a week. It reduces anxiety, improves body image, improves self esteem and improves our overall sex life too. Yes-you can enjoys sex with someone else more if you enjoy it with yourself. Men do it. They don’t usually need to be told. They can’t help themselves.

That is wonderful-let’s join them! If you don’t know how, or don’t enjoy it, that’s ok. Start small. I will not get into the explicit mechanics of it because it’s not rocket science. (Well sometimes it may take advantage of rocket science…) What is difficult is to prioritize it. To make sure that you learn how, enjoy your body and love yourself. Three times a week minimum.

Look, I’m not suggesting that you whip out your rabbit at the next really stressful PTA meeting but at home, rather than turning on the TV or whatever-take some time out for you. You deserve it and you will feel better in every area of your life.

The Three Essential Must Haves For Being Sexy (As Told By A Man)

There are lots of things that I do to feel sexy. There are other things that I do to look sexy. I won’t go into the list but lets just say that it is long and involved. Everything from exercise, clothing, makeup, self talk, hair etc…

So the other night, I was in the heat of passion with my hubby. He told me that I was really sexy and I asked him why. It was basically a list of three things:

1. I like sex

2. I have big boobs

3. The color of the inside of my vagina is apparently a nice rosy pink (I have embellished that if you can believe it).

So, ladies, there you have it. The three essentials from the perspective of a man. I know that each man has a slightly different list. But not that different. Maybe round butt or long legs, instead of big boobs but that’s about it.

Keep that in mind the next time you feel the eye lash curler and bikini wax are ESSENTIAL!

LOL!