Comments on: How To Help Women Feel Good About Themselves… http://www.goddesstalk.net/how-to-help-women-feel-good-about-themselves/ The Goddess In Me Recognizes The Goddess In You-And Wants To Talk! Sun, 02 May 2010 16:58:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Goddess Lady http://www.goddesstalk.net/how-to-help-women-feel-good-about-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-145 Goddess Lady Wed, 31 Dec 2008 22:52:43 +0000 http://www.goddesstalk.net/?p=204#comment-145 Thank you for your kind and generous comments. Thank you for your kind and generous comments.

]]> By: PJ http://www.goddesstalk.net/how-to-help-women-feel-good-about-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-144 PJ Sat, 27 Dec 2008 17:35:59 +0000 http://www.goddesstalk.net/?p=204#comment-144 In my case, it is very hard to focus on myself. I have a compulsive need to be responsible to the needs of everyone, excluding me. I bend over backwards to nurture others but feel great guilt when I concentrate on my own needs (an old fashioned notion learned from my mother). WLS has forced me to focus on me, and I now see that everyone else is more than capable of fending for themselves without my continual attention. I'm beginning to understand that my wants, needs, and desires are just as important as those of others. If I fail to love, respect, and care for myself, can I truly be meeting those needs for others? Both the psychological exam and the discussions in our online WLS group have been very eye opening for me. This whole process has given me much to think about. How did I get to this point in my life, and how can I make the changes that will help me successfully move forward from here? Your posts in this forum have been very knowledgeable, and I always find encouragement and issues to think about in what you have to say. From my experience with the psychologists/therapists at my work, it's not their compulsion to "fix" others, it's their desire to help others find the answers to help themselves. You would make a great therapist. In my case, it is very hard to focus on myself. I have a compulsive need to be responsible to the needs of everyone, excluding me. I bend over backwards to nurture others but feel great guilt when I concentrate on my own needs (an old fashioned notion learned from my mother). WLS has forced me to focus on me, and I now see that everyone else is more than capable of fending for themselves without my continual attention. I’m beginning to understand that my wants, needs, and desires are just as important as those of others. If I fail to love, respect, and care for myself, can I truly be meeting those needs for others?

Both the psychological exam and the discussions in our online WLS group have been very eye opening for me. This whole process has given me much to think about. How did I get to this point in my life, and how can I make the changes that will help me successfully move forward from here? Your posts in this forum have been very knowledgeable, and I always find encouragement and issues to think about in what you have to say. From my experience with the psychologists/therapists at my work, it’s not their compulsion to “fix” others, it’s their desire to help others find the answers to help themselves. You would make a great therapist.

]]> By: Marjie http://www.goddesstalk.net/how-to-help-women-feel-good-about-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-142 Marjie Sat, 27 Dec 2008 01:19:58 +0000 http://www.goddesstalk.net/?p=204#comment-142 One of the reasons I decided to teach middle school was because I had read that girls begin to lose self-esteem at that age. I was baffled as to why my adult daughter, who is good at everything she does and is a loving and compassionate person, questioned everything she did. Recently, I read that our children (especially same sex children) don't get their self-esteem by how we treat them, but rather by mimicking how we treat ourselves. OUCH! That would explain a lot. It's so hard to find the balance between self-respect and self indulgence. One of the reasons I decided to teach middle school was because I had read that girls begin to lose self-esteem at that age. I was baffled as to why my adult daughter, who is good at everything she does and is a loving and compassionate person, questioned everything she did. Recently, I read that our children (especially same sex children) don’t get their self-esteem by how we treat them, but rather by mimicking how we treat ourselves. OUCH! That would explain a lot. It’s so hard to find the balance between self-respect and self indulgence.

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