Never Postpone Love…

“Never postpone love till tomorrow, it’s the busiest day of the week”

Angel Love by Bonnie Altenhein

I Feel Like Somebody

Today I helped a friend whose hit rough times (to put it lightly) with her resume. I took several versions of her resume, re-wrote and re-formatted it. At the end she looked at it and said, “Wow-I feel like somebody now.”

I have not been able to stop thinking about that comment. I think that we should all do a resume-maybe with the help of a friend who likes us better than we like ourselves-for the area of our lives that we feel like a nobody. Career, spirituality, love, fitness whatever. And see that we too are all “somebody”.

I am working on this-think maybe it’s part of the Goddessness coaching program.

Where do you think that you are a nobody?

Rallying around what we want-not what we don’t want!

I find it infuriating that there is so promotion of companionship between and support of women around a disease.

I also think that it’s frustrating that all the “research” that is being done is about drugs and fixing the disease. I say let’s have a huge group of women eating all organic food and get regular exercise and fresh air for 20 years and see if the rate of breast cancer goes down. Let’s add in a weekly massage, filtered water and “clean homes” too.

The problem with this solution is that there is no money in the cure! No one will get rich off that.

I’m not saying to not support women with cancer-I’m just saying let’s not let not having cancer stop us from support and companionship.

As a society-let’s look at how our world impacts our health!

Why women don’t make as much as men

I think I know why women don’t make as much money as men. We have to spend so much dealing with our hormones! It’s really hard to be professional when you really just want to disembowel everyone in the room! I know that is kind of a sexist perspective-but damn-I’m sick of restraining myself from a killing spree!

Sperm Wars-Empowering Women!

I just ordered the book, Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict, and Other Bedroom Battles, on Amazon. It was a ground breaking book written by a scientist. He (Robin Baker) learned that women are designed to have multiple partners biologically. While I’m not interested in cheating on hubby I still find the concept very empowering. We are the ones who ultimately choose who is best fit to carry on the human race-not men.

Anyway-I haven’t read it-looking forward to learning more…

We are not about removing your joys but enhancing them

One of my great inspirations was Trudy Griswold who wrote the book Angelspeake. I had the privilege of working for her briefly and learned so much from her. Over the years I have channeled angels for myself and others and never would have done this is not for my time with her. I encourage all to read her book. I just went to catch up with her on her website and found that her dearly beloved sister has passed. So sad. It is part of life but still feels very full of fear and grief.

My writing tonight:

Me: I feel devoid of inspiration-devoid of motivation-devoid of creativity. I don’t know where to funnel my spirit/erotic self-am I an author or a narcissist?

The Angels: We bless and love you and want you to know that we are here for you that we are with you and want you to love yourself for always.

We want you to know that you’re living the life that you wanted that you love and that you deserve. It will get better-we ask you simply to pray every day and night for you to live out your purpose. We know that you do not want to do whatever-if giving up your husband or son were the price-never fear it is not. We bless and love you and want you to know that we are not about removing your joys but enhancing them. Take this time to pray. Get on your hands and knees and ask for guidance, purpose, and commitment. That is all. We bless and love you always.

-the angels.

Look beyond your parts-to see your whole!

This month, at my lab band support group, there will be several different plastic surgeons coming to talk. I am not going. I understand that some people have tons of leftover skin after losing weight. I also feel like it just encourages the perfection conversation. Every fat person that I know, over analyzes their faults-at least the small ones.

I saw a woman who had lost 100 lbs recently. She is still overweight. She feels as if she’s done nothing and the first thing that she did was jiggle her underarms. “I hate these!” she declared with disgust.

I told her that most people, at least the kind of people who we care about, don’t just look right at our underarms the moment they see us. They also don’t look right at our thighs or go on a cellulite search. They just look at US!

I know women of all sizes who focus on some particular body part that they hate and that is the first thing they see in the mirror.

The journey of Goddessness is to learn to love ourselves as whole creatures. To understand that no one is perfect and that no matter what we look like we deserve to feel like a Goddess. I do this some days better than others. Overall-I feel good about myself and grateful and when I don’t – I too must remember my own words.

When people see you they just see you-they do not zoom in on the body parts (well maybe breasts or legs but usually that’s because they like them!).

What you are doing is already profound-no pressure needed

We put so much pressure on ourselves to be profound-to make a difference. I think that the metaphysical conversation can make it worse sometimes. The teachings about putting out positive messages to receive positive things can frequently be heard by women as pressure to never think anything negative or never to focus on mediocre things like paying bills or not hating our jobs.

We spend so much of our energy feeling bad about what we  are not doing and how we haven’t changed the world instead of just being grateful to ourselves for providing what ever it is that we do.

I was reading a story in Pink Magazine about how post disaster assistance is usually planned by men and some basic things that women need like tampons are just overlooked. Additionally, once the disaster is over most of the jobs are for men as they are primarily in construction. So for quite a long period of time a woman without a man is helpless and her whole family may go hungry as a result of that.

One of the things that can be done for these women is to provide micro loans. One such woman used the loan that she received to buy a brick mold. I don’t think that she spends much of her time feeling guilty about her contribution but is mostly grateful that she can feed her family and provide work for some other widows too.

So I guess all this is to say that it’s ok to just focus on the little picture and give yourself a break about the bigger one. When I am working and wondering if I am doing it right I remember the brick maker and feel grateful to myself and Goddess.

I’m down 50 lbs – what’s your response?

I am now down 50 lbs as of 6/6/08. YEAH! I am very grateful for my wonderful progress. It’s interesting to me that people who are normal weight think that I’ve lost a ton and people who either are overweight or have struggled with their weight think that my progress is slow. I also have thought that my progress was slow.

I think that, at least for me, I have been so unable in the past to see progress and be happy with it that I never experience it. I am now learning how to acknowledge my own success and feel proud of it instead of looking for fault and thinking it’s not enough.

So-When someone tells you that they lost 50 lbs in 5 months-if you think that is slow-I invite you to look at your own life and see where you are being so critical that you are not progressing or moving forward.

Razors and Gay men-not our best!

I find it seriously annoying that the big message out there for feeling like a goddess is a razor for women. I do not even want to mention the name as I do not want to give them any accidental advertising. URGH! Also that the only show that teaches women how to love their bodies is hosted by a gay man! It’s a great show but please??? Can’t we do better than this?