Goddess Message For Me-I am responsible for my wrongdoings-not teaching others of theirs.

I had a terrible migraine headache for the last two days. While lying in bed yesterday, I prayed and prayed-”Kuan Yin, Angels, Goddess, please help me – I surrender”.

My in-laws and I had a bad falling out a few years ago. Without going into excessive detail-I wrote some stuff online that was rude to them and some other stuff that was too explicit for them. I never meant for them to read it but they found it. I didn’t do the best job of covering my tracks-I’m much better at that now.

Anyway-I’ve apologized but on the condition that they acknowledge some responsibility in the matter. Things were not exactly peachy keen between us before this all happened. Years of ill will, hurt feeling and un-met expectations went into the “final showdown”. I haven’t spoken with them directly-have left phone messages and written but no direct convos. Let’s just say that everyone in my life (except hubby who has been very torn) has thought of me as right and them as wrong.

In bed-in pain yesterday-I prayed and finally felt clear enough to be willing to apologize in person for all wrongdoing and trust that I will be safe. It is not my job to make them responsible for their wrongdoings-only to be responsible for mine. So I will go humbly to them and apologize. From a spiritual place of taking responsibility for me and how I occur in their world. I will not let them harm me in the future but will let them have their own journey and lessons when they are ready for them. It’s not up to me when they “learn” only them. I will let go so that I can move on and my husband is at peace with them-his mommy and daddy.

The words of many a self help program echo in my head, “You can be right or you can be _______.” Fill in the blank with successful, related, happy. Being right is not joyful-being at peace with oneself is. This is the first time when I’ve felt clear enough to be at peace with my apology and not resentful. I will continue to pray to Goddess that this will be the case going forward.

Blessed Be!